Comments on: [RELATIONSHIP] Is Your Wife Mad at Dad?

By: Amanda S

Amanda S — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 19:10:13 +0000

This advice is really going to help, thanks.

By: JohnMcG

JohnMcG — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 20:47:45 +0000

@Laurie,

Sorry, not it wouldn’t. At least not in all cases.

Doing those things didn’t make my wife soooo happy. In fact, I think they frustrated her because it made it harder for her to take her anger out on me.

By: tim howington

tim howington — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 03:33:30 +0000

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By: Andy

Andy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 04:52:00 +0000

@Anonymous: One thing that has helped my wife, my children and myself out is that we all have chores. We all have specific schedules for specific days of the week. This way, we all have responsibilities and roles and know who is responsible for what.

Don’t get me wrong. We came to this conclusion after many, many, many discussions. But my wife and I were willing to sit down, together, and work through our challenges. This discussion has helped immensely.

We plan our months together. This has definitely opened the doors of communication. I wish you well.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 03:59:42 +0000

If you don’t want your wife to be mad at you–and you know how unpleasant that can be–just remember 3 things:

1) It only takes one minute to take the garbage out, so just DO it
2) If it’s no big deal, (like putting away the milk, feeding the dog, wiping down the sink, putting a dish in the dishwasher) then please just DO it … it would make us soooo happy!
3) We wouldn’t have to NAG you if you would just DO it!

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By: cory @ AGoodHusband.net

cory @ AGoodHusband.net — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 00:21:30 +0000

Anonymous – my heart goes out to you, man. It’s tough. I’ve seen a bunch of times. When I was in college, I had friends who were in medical school, law school, or other programs that were married with kids. It’s no easy situation. That said, it sounds like you and your wife are doing the best you can to provide for your kids and to better your future.

It sounds to me like it’s a matter of expectations. You can run yourself ragged serving other people, but if they’re not getting their most important needs met, then they won’t be happy.

Sit down with your wife (devote an hour to this conversation – make it a priority, put it in your calendars in advance) and discuss your feelings. Don’t accuse, just tell her how you feel, then tell you want to help, you understand where she’s coming from, and you need to know what her most important needs are. Make sure that she understands that she needs to focus on just the core needs. With both of you being so busy, some less important things will have to fall by the wayside. That’s okay.

Usually for really busy couples, you can have a great relationship by making sure that most important 2 or 3 things are done. For example, I make sure the kitchen is clean, that I pray with my wife each morning, and that I always follow through on what I commit to. For her, she tells me she loves me when I ask, she cooks when she can, and we have regular dates.

It will be different for everyone, but I hope that helps. Stop back by The Father Life or AGoodHusband.net and let us know how it goes!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 17:40:30 +0000

Im a father and husband and i try to do everything written here. My wife has been going to school, studing in the morning and then going to school in the afternoon. She has been on me about doing more around the house. I know she is stressed from school and wanting to go back to work. And when the house needs cleaning she cant study or leave to study somewhere else before she cleans. I know what she wants but i dont have enough time in the day it seems. I wake up and fix breackfast for the kids and myself, often time for her as well. Get the kids bathed and dressed and out the door for school. I have been putting aside 1 hour at the Gym for myself either in the morn or after work. I work 9-5 and between there i pick up the kids and take them to my moms house were i finish my work day untill 5 and go home to make dinner because my wife doesent get home untill 7pm. i usually get home btwn 6-630 get dinner ready and eat soon as she walks in. I try to wash dishes as i go but i dont get all of them. I take out the trash when im done in the kitchen. But she still finds time to complain???
I know she does laundry while im at work. So when we both get home there 2-3 loads waiting for us to put away. And at 830 at night i usaully dont want to put clothes away.
I have even been fixing lunch/snacks for school for her. She always finds times to say things when im walking out the door or call me when im at work.

I feel she lets things really get to her. I cant see that im trying really hard pulling more weight then she see’s. She starting to say some really mean things and it makes me really want to fight back.

Our house is not really dirty or filthy, It just needs constant picking up. Am i wrong to tell her that its always gonna be like this. Do your house stay clean after you clean up. I have 2 kids and people dropping by everyother day isnt it normal to feel it being a constant battle to keep it clean?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 11 Feb 2009 14:24:52 +0000

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