Comments on: AGoodHusband.net: Could You Forgive a Cheating Spouse?

By: S J

S J — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 23:55:21 +0000

Those who have bipolar disorder, know better at heart! If it has been ingrained in them that their family life is 100% great, then NO, a husband or a wife with most common mental diseases will not stray. Bipolar is not an excuse for a sexual encounter. A troubled marriage, however is exposed and we are left open to decide for ourselves the consequences of our actions. And that is the heart of the problem because we make bad judge-”mental” desicions. Our partner must be a rock! If they are giving at all then we will push because we need dramatic instances to “feel”. The best thing in my opinion is this: Mental disease or not, life can be hard, we have to be harder. If there is an instance of abuse or cheating, then get a divorce. Telling me it is OK, tells me at heart that it is OK. Forgive me if you want but my best advice is divorce and start anew. Those of us who have bpd will always hurt the ones closest to us. Ponder this…Let’s say I’m in a real crazy mood, and I go for a walk in the woods…All of a sudden I see a bear…Trust me on this: I am not going to provoke it. I am not going to push it to see how far it will go! BPD or not, I know better! When we say we don’t it is only half true and half defense mechanism. We know better, but we will always be distracted by trying to function normally. SJ-BPD friendly since 2001′

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By: John

John — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 14:49:48 +0000

You’re right to ask, “What if your husband cheated without the influence of a mental disorder?” The reader her shared her story above will forever chalk up his actions to bipolar disorder. I am on the other side of this coin. I am a “normie” who had an affair with a bipolar woman. It was wrong, I know, and I’m not defending adultery. But in the end, it was determined that I was the real sinner, while my bipolar lover had a medical excuse for her actions. Nice!

And for the record, Sarah says she would never “spy” on her husband. Give her one reason to doubt him, and I’ll bet she changes her tune. All happily married couples claim they would take the “high road” until the road becomes bumpy and treacherous. So give me a break!

Finally, you’re asking married people if they could forgive their spouses for cheating? No one knows the answer to this until it happens.

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By: Jon @ DadTrek

Jon @ DadTrek — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 05:18:17 +0000

Every situation is different, and there are a lot of ways spouses can cheat. What about the husband who becomes addicted to pornography? What about the wife who devotes every ounce of her energy towards her children and completely ignores her husband? (That’s not a good thing.)

So what would I do… I would do everything I could to forgive my wife and work things out. Notice that I said I would do everything that *I* could do. Sometimes the situation is beyond repair for various reasons, however I would sincerely do my best to forgive and repair the marriage. I love my wife, and vowed “for better or worse, ’till death to us part.”